WHERE ARE THE GOOD MEN?

The question that is being asked in our society today is , “where are the good men and why are more women assuming more traditional male roles”.

God created man in the image and ordained them as the priest in their home. When Adam blamed Eve he was actually shifting the responsibilities to her (Genesis 3). He was dodging his responsibility as the leader, protector, and provider. This same attitude has infiltrated our society today and some men are comfortable with women bearing the brunt of the burden. This is the complete opposite of what God intended. He gave men work to till the ground, beautify and protect the earth. Women were to bear children and attend to the care of their family, help her husband by guarding and protecting the family from outside influences. Their children were to be taught the fear of God at an early age; practice benevolence and kindness, and a support system for her husband, creating a safe space for him to unwind and unburden after a hard day. Also, to be a collaborator and partner with him through life’s journey and keeping strife out of the home. God gave men the authority to become leaders in their homes by leading an exemplary life that is above reproach which filter to the community, church and work. Hence, they embody the character of Christ.

We are noticing a shift in the roles in the 21st century since some men are comfortable to sit back and allow women to lead. They are to work, pay the bill, raise the kids and be the PRO for the family. This can be burdensome for a woman and often lead to burnt out , flaring of tempers, which creates strife and division in the home. Our boys need good role models to raise them to fear God be honest, kind, respectful and temperate. Their training in the home should equip them to become gentlemen who will love, nurture and respect their wives. Sadly, most of our children are exposed to violence, drama, tension, and abuse in the home where they should be safe. No wonder our children are out of control. They don’t know who they are because there is brokenness in the home and no one is listening and the absence of the father contributes to this problem. Instead of modeling the attributes and behaviors of good fathers; they become rebellious and look up to the undesirables in our society as role models. Can we blame them?

Fathers God gave you the responsibility of growing your children to love and fear God. Teach them to respect you and they will respect God, whom you represented to them. During their formative ‘years these are very crucial years of the child’s growth and development. God is calling men to rise and uplift the youth. Nurture and affirm them while teaching them to be responsible, accountable, good work ethic, social skills and good morals. There is so much brokenness in our society because we have failed our children, spouses and God by distorting His image. It doesn’t matter where you are right now. There is a little boy or girl somewhere who is longing for a father’s love. Get up, step up and reclaim your position of power, and start effecting the changes in your home now. Let’s raise a generation of men who will stand for the truth, justice , and equity. Let your presence influence those around you so that your children will arise and call you blessed. Do what is right and honors God! We long for you to make us proud.